Connecting IRL: Realistic Expectations If you are a rule person or a numbers person, this is going to make your day. There is a formula that expresses how to experience satisfaction in your relationships. Here it is: Satisfaction with Relationships = Reality – Expectations S = R – E Let me flesh…
Written by Michelle Anderson Personal boundaries are limits and rules we set for ourselves within relationships. Boundaries include our bodies, property, emotions, preferences, opinions, time, and spiritual beliefs. They define where you end and another person begins—like a fence marking where your yard stops and your neighbor’s starts (aka, where…
Connecting IRL (In Real Life) Have you found that binging on social media is not fulfilling? Social media is like the junk food of relationships. Junk food fills an urge: reducing hunger, but the underlying need (nutrition) is not met. Social media seems to fill an urge: reducing aloneness or feeling unknown. But in…
Thinking of Having an Affair? Most people don’t set out to have an affair. We know we’re not supposed to wander. But over time, a relationship can become neglected for many reasons. Then someone else begins meeting emotional needs—listening, showing interest, offering understanding. Gradually, that connection can start taking up…