I work a lot with folks who battle with shame. A key truth about shame is that it lies. But the lies it comes up with are super sophisticated: they are based on truth – but only a very little bit of truth. Then shame brings our focus to only see that one…
From Polarizing to Loving There is a human reaction that occurs in every society: Polarization. One person steps to one side of an issue, and the other person – feeling the need to bring balance – steps to the other side. The first person may feel unheard, or may simply feel the…
I find myself thinking about something these days. I’ll let you guess what it is. I talk about it, I read emails about it, I make decisions based on it, I consider how others are reacting to it, my shopping is affected by it, my activities are affected by it, my…
I have experienced the most amazing thing: a complete misunderstanding. Actually, many, many misunderstandings. It’s amazing how misunderstandings happen and how often they happen. Let me give you an example: I wanted something from my husband and let him know (I’ll spare you the details…just assume I’m right). My husband responded with what I would describe as…