Do This One Thing to Feel Less Stress
Stop reading other people’s minds.
Sounds easy enough, but it happens all the time. We are always making sense of things – trying to guess what other people are thinking, feeling, and intending. Even when driving, we do our best to figure out, “Is that person going to yield?!?” The tendency to mind-read is especially true when there is missing information. When we don’t know something, we tend to fill in the gap with negative information.
- He doesn’t care.
- She doesn’t like me.
- They don’t understand.
Reading Minds = More Stress
We rarely default to positive in the absence of information. When you don’t get a text response from someone, have you ever explained it by saying: My boss has utter faith in my work. My dad is super proud of me. My kids love spending time with me. Right. When we don’t know, we tend to go dark. More than that, we almost always imagine others’ feelings, thoughts, and intentions as more negative than reality.
This leads us to feel worse than we need to.
Stop thinking you know what other people are thinking, feeling, or intending. If you think you know, you are probably wrong.
Other options:
- Ask them. (Ridiculous, I know. But give it a shot.)
- Figure out what you are feeling – then address it.
- Distract yourself.
Catch yourself. Cut it out. Feel less stress.
Upcoming Presentations
Dr. Veronica Johnson will be preaching at Castle Oaks Covenant Church on September 13. The focus will be Acts 15. Who doesn’t love a sermon on circumcision?
Did you miss the last sermon from July 26 ? Check it out here “Repent.”
Re|Engage Your Marriage
Some of our clients have deeply benefited from attending Re|Engage groups. Re|Engage strengthens marriages in Christ-centered ways. They are hosted in various churches. We are acquainted with Mission Hills Church in Littleton and Park Church in Denver. If you are struggling in your marriage or want a boost forward, we encourage you to attend.
Great Videos
Andy Stanley preaches on Three Essential Ingredients for relationships (any relationship – not just marriage). Here’s the link to the first, perhaps most important, ingredient. If you find yourself unable to resolve conflict in any relationship, try watching these videos and putting the ideas into practice.
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